The HandFasting of Marie & Lenny
Pagan Pride Day September 20, 2003 Unitarian Universalist Church of Ft. Lauderdale
Fort Lauderdale, Florida.

HPS: SophiaLinus
HP:  Spelcastor

Cast the circle

HPS: ‘We invite the powers of Earth from the north where the cold wind 
blows, to join us to witness the joining of Marie and Lenny, and give them 
blessings of strength.’

HP: ‘We invite the powers of  Fire from the east where the sun rises, to 
join us to witness the joining of Marie and Lenny, and give them blessings 
of passion .’

HPS: ‘We invite the powers of  Air from the south where the hot air 
originates, to join us to witness the joining of Marie and Lenny, and give 
them blessings of togetherness. ’

HP:  ‘We invite the powers of  Water from the west where the sun sets, to 
join us to witness the joining of Marie and Lenny, and give them blessings 
of new beginnings.’

HPS: 'We invite the Goddess Aphrodite, to join us to witness the joining of 
Marie and Lenny and give them blessings for the love they now have and share 
with one another.'

HP:  'We invite the God Eros, to join us to witness the bonding of Marie and 
Lenny and give them blessings for the love they now have and share with one 
another.'

HPS: 'We now will now celebrate the joining together of Marie and Lenny. 
They have decided to publicly declare their love for each other with a Hand 
fasting.  Would Marie and Lenny please come forward and stand here before us 
and the Goddess and the God.
'Marie, do you come of your own free will and accord to acknowledge before 
the Goddess and God the vow and bond of love that is shared between yourself 
and Lenny?'

Marie: 'yes'

HP:  'Lenny, do you come of your own free will and accord to acknowledge 
before the Goddess and God the vow and bond of love that is shared between 
yourself and Marie?'

Lenny: 'yes'

HPS: 'This Hand fasting bond is to be entered into only after considerable 
thought and reflection. As with any aspect of life, it has its cycles, its 
ups and its downs, its trials and its triumphs. With full understanding of 
this, Marie and Lenny have come here today to be joined as one.'

HP:  'Know now before you go further, that since your lives have crossed in 
this life you have formed ties between each other.  As you seek to enter 
this state of bonding you should strive to make real, the ideals which give 
meaning to this ceremony.

HPS: 'With full awareness, know that within this circle you are not only 
declaring your intent to be hand fasted before your friends and family, but 
you speak that intent also to your creative higher powers.  The promises 
made today and the ties that are bound here greatly strengthen your union; 
they will cross the years and lives of each soul's growth.  Do you still 
seek to enter this ceremony?'

Marie: 'yes'
Lenny: 'yes'

HPS: 'Please join your hands and listen to that which I am about to say. 
Above you are the stars, below you are the stones, as time passes, 
remember...   Like a stone should your love be firm, like a star should your 
love be constant. Let the powers of the mind and of the intellect guide you 
in your hand fasting, let the strength of your wills bind you together, let 
the power of love and desire make you happy, and the strength of your 
dedication make you inseparable.  Be close, but not too close.  Be 
understanding and have patience with one another.  Be free in giving 
affection and warmth.  May neither take advantage of the other.  For 
remember what one may not provide, the other may.  Storms will come, but 
they will pass quickly. Have no fear for the Goddess and God are with you 
always.’
(taking the joined left hands, and the cord)
'Marie, I have no right to bind thee to Lenny, only you have this right.  Is 
it be your wish for Lenny to be bound to you?  And you to him?  If it is 
your wish, say so at this time.’

Marie: 'It is my wish.'

HPS: 'Marie, What do you give to Lenny?'

Marie: give the gift or ring, if there is one in/on Lenny's hand.
"I Marie, Before the Goddess and God, give you my unconditional love, 
appreciate all that you do and are because your total happiness forever is 
the most important thing in my life. Today I commit myself to you and give 
you all that I am realizing it was you I have waited for all my life. I love 
you now, I have always loved you and always will."

HPS: 'Lenny, I have no right to bind thee to Marie, only you have this 
right.  Is it be your wish for Marie to be bound to you?  And you to her?  
If it is your wish, say so at this time.’

Lenny: 'It is my wish'

HPS: 'Lenny, What do you give to Marie:

Lenny:  give the gift or ring, if there is one in/on Marie's hand.
"I Lenny, Before the Goddess and God, give you my unconditional love, 
appreciate all that you do and are because your total happiness forever is 
the most important thing in my life. Today I commit myself to you and give 
you all that I am realizing it was you I have waited for all my life. I love 
you now, I have always loved you and always will."

HPS: (wraps the cord loosely around both arms and ties a knot which can be 
slipped out of) 'Here before witnesses, Marie and Lenny have sworn vows to 
each other.  With this cord, I bind them to the vows that they each have 
made.  However, this binding is tied so that neither is restricted by the 
other, and the binding is only enforced by both their wills.  With this 
binding I tie you, heart to heart, together as one. With this knot you are 
joined in sacred union. May the Goddess and God smile upon you, and bless 
you with health and prosperity.  Your Vows have now been heard by all. They 
represent a seal of your love and respect for each other.'
(hands chalice to Marie:)
'This is your first drink together.  May you never thirst.  May you drink 
your fill from the cup of love.'

Marie: takes chalice and holds it to Lenny's lips while he sips then Lenny 
takes chalice and holds it to Marie's lips while she sips. The chalice is 
then handed back to the HPS who sets it on the table.

HP:  (hands plate of bread to Marie).
'This is your first food together.  May you never hunger.  May you eat your 
fill from the plate of love.'

Marie: takes bread and holds it to Lenny's mouth while he eats then Lenny 
takes bread and holds it to Marie's mouth while she eats. The bread is then 
handed back to the HP who sets it on the table.

HPS: 'By the power vested in me by the Goddess and God I now bless this hand 
fasting.    May your love so endure that its flame remains a guiding light 
unto you.'

Marie and Lenny: A kiss is appropriate at this time

HPS: 'We present Marie and Lenny to the north where the cold wind blows, 
from the powers of the element of earth we ask for blessings of strength and 
thank them for attending this ritual.'

HP:  'We present Marie and Lenny to the east where the sun rises, from the 
powers of the element of fire we ask for blessings of passion and thank them 
for attending this ritual.

HPS: 'We present Marie and Lenny to the south where the hot air originates, 
from the powers of the element of air we ask for the blessings of 
togetherness and thank them for attending this ritual.

HP:  'We present Marie and Lenny to the west where the sun sets, from the 
powers of the element of water we ask for the blessings of new beginnings 
and thank them for attending this ritual.

HPS: ''We present Marie and Lenny to the  Goddess Aphrodite and God Eros and 
ask them for the blessings of  the love they now have and share with one 
another and thank them for attending this ritual.'

Marie and Lenny: turn to leave and are confronted with a broom which has 
been put in their path.

HPS: 'This will be your first act of working together.  May you never 
falter.  May you have your fill from the work of love'

Marie and Lenny: With tied clasp hands step over the broom to enter their 
new life as one.

Marie and Lenny: Slip the tied cord off their arms and hold tied cord 
overhead.

HP:  'We present Marie and Lenny for your blessings.'

Blessings and So Mote it be

The circle is open.  Let's get some cake.
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